‘Try not to think about it’….’just relax and it will all happen in time’… Yep it’s like trying not to think about the train that’s heading your way – and you’re tied to the tracks. While this is sound advice you may have noticed that once you begin the fertility journey it can take over your mind. What can I do next? Why me? Should I go to the acupuncturist or the nutritionist? My friend calls it ‘mincing’ when you grind the same thoughts over and over and over in your mind.
But try this…imagine a pink elephant with purple spots and a long curly spotty tail. Now, don’t think about the pink elephant with purple spots and a long curly spotty tail – impossible right that elephant just keeps coming back. But, if I ask you now to imagine a green tiger with orange stripes dancing with a yellow Zebra all of a sudden you just don’t think about the elephant any more….
This is a great tool to use when you are over thinking it all, because your solution does not come from the mincing… so, distract yourself. Find a good book to read, watch funny movies, dive into a new project, plan a weekend trip to a beach you have not been to before. For the 3am mincing try having a place to go in your mind. Go for detail…my place is an island in the middle of an azure sea, the sand is white and sparkling in the sun. I’m in a large hammock under a palm tree and I can feel the warm breeze floating over my skin. I can imagine every tiny detail and it has me back to sleep in about 5 minutes.
This is not ‘not thinking about it’, this is giving your mind the time to rest. Research shows that distracting yourself from a worry or concern increases problem solving and creativity. It is shown to literally reduce pain signals and diminish stress hormones within the body.
Right, I’m off for a walk J