Have you ever noticed the language around making a baby – especially if it has not happened quickly. Even the usual ‘trying’ implies that it is hard work. Our brains are hard wired to hear our words and act on them, so, if we use language to ourselves and others that solidifies our belief that it is hard, or we are too old, or too fat, too thin etc etc, then our body acts accordingly.
Marissa Peer is a world-renowned therapist and hypotherapist and she has worked with women who are on the fertility journey helping with a fertile mindset. Given that so many women have no physical obstruction to getting pregnant this is a vital part of the puzzle and Marissa has some great advice.
One of the best getting pregnant tips I can give you is to go down the baby aisles in the supermarket and into the baby shops, and plan all the things you will buy. Touch, smell, and feel the items. Look through baby catalogues, and plan your baby’s room, wardrobe, and nursery. Buy some socks or a little hat as faith that your baby is on its way to you.
Talk to your baby every single day. Welcome your baby into your womb, into your home, into your life, and into your heart. Send love to your baby; let it know how much you want it. Describe to the baby all the things you will do together and as a family. Show your baby that it’s wanted even before you get pregnant.
When you have sex, imagine your body acting out how to get pregnant. Imagine a perfect egg drawing a perfect sperm towards it, perfect fertilization taking place, and your fertilized egg becoming a foetus, implanting securely in your womb, and growing on target for nine months. You can use a book such as Life by Lennart Neilsonn that shows you this in beautiful detail.
Your egg is intelligent. It contains a life force all its own, and it knows exactly what to do at every stage of conception. If you see images of conception then instruct it, command it, and rehearse with it what is to happen. Your egg will do it. Did you know? Women with only one ovary have eggs that are so smart that they swim to and then travel down the alternate fallopian tube every other month.
See your baby’s presence everywhere… The cot in the baby room, the baby bath and all the baby products in the bathroom, the highchair and the buggy in the hall. Take the baby on a tour of your house. Show it how wanted and loved it is.
Stop worrying about not getting pregnant and start thinking about how you are a wonderful, loving mother. Think about how you are great parents, and how you bond with your baby immediately. You instinctively know what to do. See images of you and your baby bathing together or snuggled up in bed together.
Welcome and celebrate each step to getting pregnant. End every visualisation with the same image of you holding your baby in your arms. Before and during any medical procedure, such as egg collection or embryo transfer, remind yourself that in nine months you will be in another bed in a similar room delivering your baby. Talk to your baby, and tell them this.
One of the greatest gifts chiropractic care can add to this same journey is that mind-body connection. When your body is functioning better you feel empowered, you feel like your body is capable again and that, as well as the fact that your body is ACTUALLY functioning better, is a way of supercharging your fertility potential.